Let's Talk About Sex, Baby

“I am not an angry girl/But it seems like I’ve got everyone fooled/Every time I say something they find hard to hear/They chalk it up to my anger/And never to their own fear.” ani difranco

Dagny’s Entry [October 3, 2009]

I recently had an interesting conversation with a group of people who are roughly 20 years younger than myself. We discussed the mixed messages that men and women get about sexuality, and I found the discussion extremely enlightening in a number of ways. It also deeply troubled me because it underscored the ways in which social norms become so deeply embedded in the individual’s psyche and result in people doing things that they don’t necessarily want to do simply because they’re expected to do them. I think what bothered me the most is the fact that I could clearly see how both men and women want to do things that might go against what’s expected of them, but they don’t because they’re afraid of being labeled by others.

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